When men say that they “love to see the woman underneath the makeup,” they’re not saying they want to see your leg stubble and greasy bangs—they’re saying they want you to be better at hiding your maintenance routine. Because the maintenance spoils the fantasy. Lindy West (via lavenderlabia)
The mirror was often used as a symbol of the vanity of woman. The moralizing, however, was mostly hypocritical. You painted a naked woman because you enjoyed looking at her, you put a mirror in her hand and you called the painting ‘Vanity’, thus morally condemning the woman whose nakedness you had depicted for your own pleasure. John Berger, Ways of Seeing
Men survey women before treating them. Consequently how a woman appears to a man can determine how she will be treated. To acquire some control over this process, women must contain it and interiorize it. That part of a woman’s self which is the surveyor treats the part which is the surveyed so as to demonsrate to others how her whole self would like to be treated. And this exemplary treatment of herself by herself constitutes her presence. Everyone of her actions - whatever its direct purpose or motivation - is also read as an indication of how she would like to be treated. If a woman throws a glass on the floor, this is an example if how she treats her own emotion of anger and of how she would wish it to be treated by others. If a man does the same, his reaction is only treated as an expression of his anger. If a woman makes a good joke this is an axample of how she treats the joker in herself and accordingly of how she as a joker-woman would like to be treated by others. Only a man can make a good joke for its own sake. John Berger, Ways of Seeing
One of the most sinister things about normalized racism is you don’t have to have bad intentions to be racist, you just have to remain ignorant. Why Some of Your Favorite People Are Racist | AmericaWakieWakie (via america-wakiewakie)
Forgive yourself. You are not your past, you are not what happened to you. It’s okay. You can live.
when you think your cramps are finished but then
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